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What You Need To Know About Sex Education and Tips To Get You In Sex Mood ~ The Press Tv gathered


Schedule a weekly sex date, clear at least 60 minutes in your calendar once a week for a reoccurring sex date.

“The key is to keep the commitment to explore your body and your partner’s body the way you’d keep a work call or hair appointment,” says sex educator Sarah Sloane, who’s been coaching sex toy classes at Good Vibrations and Pleasure Chest since 200l.

FYI, this tip applies for solo sex, too. Scheduled masturbation slaps.

Lean into lusty learning

Plan a date to your local sex shop. Go see a live recording of Tina Horn’s “Why Are People Into That?!” podcast. Go to The Sex Museum. Attend an erotic storytelling event.

“In long-term sexual relationships, creating a sense of novelty and newness can be the difference between being turned on and feeling like you’re doing a chore,” says Sinclair.

One of the best ways to do this is to go to a sex-focused event and see what convos and interests arise after, she says.

Go on a sexy getaway

Also known as vacation… where you have sex.

It’s not about putting pressure on yourself to get it on. It’s about spending quality time together, without the interruption of work/kids/pets/parents.

If you end up bang-a-langing, great! Somebody else will wash the lube-stained sheets! If not, no biggie, you’ll still benefit from the QT.

Invest time into turning each other on

To reiterate: Human bodies don’t turn on with the push of a button. That sh*t takes time.

Explore wearable sex toys

Ideally, ones can come with a remote control.

“Try having one partner wearing a vibrator, like the Lock-N-Play Panty Teaser by CalExotics, which your partner can control with a remote,” suggests McDevitt.

“The buildup will have you jumping each other’s bones when you get home.”


Think about how H-O-T an anticipatory sext session could be. Before you’re going to see your partner, tell them exactly what you want to do to them.

Some lines to borrow:

“I can’t wait to lick along the seam of your…”

“I keep thinking about the way you looked when I first pressed into you last week…”

“Tonight I want to hear you moan my name into my mouth…”

Build anticipation in other creative ways

Some suggestions from Sinclair:

Leave a sexy note for your partner.

Hang special lingerie in a place where your partner will see it.

Whisper something dirty in their ear right before leaving for work.

Go shopping for new bondage gear or sex toys together (and maybe tell each other ways you would like to use them!).

De-stress together

Your libido’s enemy is likely your number one constant: stress. Bust some of that stress with the following techniques.


Of course yoga is on the list! It’s the de-stressing practice, after all. Plus, Downward-Facing Dog is great practice for doggy style…

Another option: Try tantric yoga, which is basically sensual yoga.


TBH, you don’t know true intimacy until you’ve matched your inhales and exhales with a boo’s inhales and exhales.


Practice doing a few minutes of meditation to clear your mind before you engage in a sexual exchange, suggest McDevitt.

“Just don’t make getting in the mood for sex the goal of stress-reduction, because it will backfire. Saying, ‘I need to meditate so I’m less stressed and want sex’ is a surefire way to stress yourself out even more,” she says. Noted!

Take a shower or bath

Muscle-relaxing heat. The sensual slip of soap on your skin. Naked bodies. Yep, the shower and bath are perfect for getting turned on.

The goal isn’t to have sex in the shower, just to de-stress, sensually. But (!) if one thing leads to another, don’t forget to use lube.

Resolve any conflict

“The best sex is sex where there is clear, direct communication and openness between partners,” says Sinclair.

“And if you’re fighting, mad at, or frustrated with your partner, it can cause you to put your walls up, which isn’t a conducive mood or attitude for happy play.”

Your move: Communicate, communicate, and communicate some more in order to resolve (and maybe even copulate).

Feeling angry, frustrated, or annoyed with yourself can also block your libido.

Try journaling, talking through it with someone else (a friend, therapist, lover), or turning to your other self-care practices.

Set the mood

“Your surroundings can sometimes be key to getting out of a bad mood and into a sexy one,” says Sinclair.

Try cleaning your sex space, dimming the lights, lighting your favorite candle, playing some soft music, laying out an aphrodisiac food platter (or just a chocolate bar), or turning on your fav-O-rite R-rated movie.

Make it a game

What do sex and games have in common? They’re both fun. Together it’s like fun x10.

No hands

You can kiss. That’s it! No hair pulling, nipple tweaking, finger teasing, ball cupping, or bum spanking allowed.

The first person to use their hands and touch the other person loses.

Your move: Use your teeth, tongue, and lips to bite, suck, kiss, and lick your partner’s mouth at a rhythm that’s so pleasurable they can’t help but to pull you into them.

(If you don’t think this is hot, you clearly haven’t seen everyone’s fave The L Word couple Carmen and Shane play it in season 2, episode 3.)

Roll the die

Ah, sex dice — which you can find online — may sound corny AF, but it can be seriously hot.

Roll the dice and let them tell you whether to bite, suck, lick, smack, or kiss your partners butt, clit, cock, or mouth.

If you and your partner are into kink and BDSM, you might try this kink-focused set.

Pick a card, any card

Then, do what it tells you to do. Ranging from oral sex to back massage to finger sucking and face sitting, sex cards are fun for duos who are in the mood to get in the mood. Grab a set online.

You go, I go

“This exercise is all about playing Giver and then playing Receiver,” explains Sinclair.

Start by setting a timer. For a set period of time (like 30 minutes), the Giver is to touch the Receiver wherever and however they’d like to be touched, starting with nonsexual touches. Once the time is up, switch.

“This is a great way to get focused on giving and receiving pleasure, and communicating what feels good before sex even begins,” she says.

Bring in erotic aids

Instead of going from 0-to-O (that’s zero to orgasm), why not use your eyes and ears to set the mood?

Explore audio porn

“Spoken erotica like Dipsea and Aurore are a fun new way to bring fantasy and imagination into the experience,” says Sinclair.

Cue it up on your phone on the way back from dinner and hand bae one of the earbuds.

Watch porn together

If you or your boo enjoy watching videos in your solo time, why not watch them together? For some super-erotic, sex-positive films, check out FourChambers or Bellesa.

Also hot: Turning on a lengthier porn film and flipping the screen around so that you can hear the huffs, moans, and mews in the background (CrashPadSeries has some very sexy moan-filled vids).

Get wild with words

It should be no surprise that reading about people having sex can be hot. Pull a story up from Literotica or Sugar Butch Chronicles and read it aloud to your boo.

Flip through a comic book

Visual learners to the front! “Graphic novels and comic books, like Fantagraphics, are an imaginative and fun way to explore new parts of your sexuality,” says Sinclair.

The bottom line

It’s perfectly healthy and normal if it takes a little work to get in the mood for sex. There are, as is demonstrated above, plentyyyy of ways to do so.

Also, it’s OK if you can’t get in the mood! You should never feel pressured to have sex if you don’t want to.

Your genitals and other erogenous zones aren’t a “use ‘em or lose ‘em” situation — they’ll still be there for you when you’re either in, or have time to get in, the mood.

Source: Global Exellence

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